Dear Mr. Friendly
You are a kind and generous person. You are so considerate of other peoples’ feelings that you don’t even need to attempt to empathize with anyone, you know what everyone wants and needs without even thinking! You’re a natural at knowing how to make other people happy.
You’re a giver too. You’re always giving people your warmth and general positive attitude. It’s impressive how hard you try to make other people feel happy by sharing your own happiness. And you’re modest too, you know that some people are beyond your help - you recognize that you are human and you do have limits to your capabilities.
In fact, you are so consistently friendly there can never by any reason why anyone would ever be upset with you. It’s never your fault when other people are angry. Anyone who expresses even the mildest frustration in your direction is simply not as emotionally evolved and healthy as you. They haven’t learned how to shield other people from their own bad attitudes when they’re upset over something completely unrelated to anything you might do.
You are a gift to other peoples’ well-being, never a strain. Never mind any accidental actions, you make people feel like you’re such a friendly person when you make your demands of them.
I’m sorry, demands was the wrong word; my mistake. I should have said frequent requests for favors which often need to be performed as quickly as possible else the direst of circumstances will result. You would never ask a favor unless you had absolutely no alternative, I know.
I did not mean to insult you. I have great respect for you because I’ve learned so much from you. You’ve taught me the importance of being friendly. And though I’m not nearly as friendly as you, I’m still far more friendly then I would have been without your guidance. I’ve also learned that if you didn’t mean to do something then it would be friendly for me to apologize to you if I become so emotional that I was unable to empathize with your intentions.
Maybe I shouldn’t say I’m sorry I insulted you. I wouldn’t want you to feel like you should apologize to me for being angry at me, if I did insult you, because I didn’t mean to insult you. Would it be more friendly for me to apologize to you even though I didn’t mean to insult you, or to remind you to apologize to me if I did insult you? Forgive me, I’m not as emotionally evolved as you, these things are so complex for me, I don’t know how you managed to get so far.
Let me try it this way: I didn’t mean to be the least bit annoyed when I tried so very hard to sacrifice my personal privacy and space because you needed me to do a favor for you. I would say I’m sorry for being emotionally inferior to you, but I didn’t mean to force my anger on you when you generously gave me an opportunity to do a favor for you as soon as I was finished eating dinner, so long as it was within the hour, at my convenience of course.
I did mean to communicate clearly to you that that particular time was not a good one for me, but I didn’t mean to expose you to my bad attitude when I finally understood just how important this favor was to you. I certainly wasn’t trying to be selfish by prioritizing my own time over yours.
I suppose I have more to learn. Maybe I need to practice being more friendly, just like you.
Warmest Regards,
~Not as Friendly a Guy as You
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